It started at 5:00. I was waiting for Teaching Pool (my church group that meets to help whoever is preaching process the scripture for that week's sermon) to start
and felt fairly rhythmic contractions that started in my back. I felt like
things were happening, but I could talk through them and concentrate on the
conversation. When I got home, Colin had made steak and veggies for dinner.
After eating, we went on a walk around the Huntington University lake (about a
mile). I bounced on the yoga ball, took a warm shower, and tried to relax in
the nursery as contractions intensified and began timing them. I thought they
were pretty bad (I had no idea) and was having some difficulty talking through
them. I began my breathing techniques and found that “dancing” or swaying
through them helped with the pain. I wouldn’t allow myself to call it pain. I
tried to think of them as an interesting sensation and spoke about them in
terms of intensity rather than hurt.
At about 1:00 I called the hospital to see if I should come
in since I was timing contractions at 50 seconds and 2 minutes apart. Dr.
Harrison, the doctor on call, said that I could come in or wait a little while
if I wanted to try to have a natural birth (the less time at the hospital, the
less chances of medical intervention). Colin ran to the store to pick up miso
soup so that I could have something to eat that still fit the clear liquid diet
I would be on if I was in active labor. When he returned, it was about 2:00 and
we packed the car and headed to the hospital.
I was admitted to our room (103) and contractions continued
to intensify. I was calling them 6s and 7s out of 10 on the hospital pain scale. The nurse
checked my cervix and said I was only 2 cm dilated. I was crushed. I asked to
take a shower to help cope with the contractions and hope that it would also
release more oxytocin and speed up labor. After an hour in the shower, I
hobbled back to the bed and continued to breathe through the contractions.
Colin helped by counting me through them as we tried to play cards and watch
shows on Netflix. I was too distracted and getting exhausted. I’m not sure what
time this was, but I think it would have to be about 6:00am. I was told my
obstetrician Dr. Stamm would come check on me about 9:00, but he had a C-section
and didn’t make it. The nurse said he would be by at about 11:00. I was pretty
discouraged about it because my pain was getting much worse and I was making no
progress in dilation. I had decided that I wanted him to break my water to try
to get things moving along.
By 11:00 contractions were so intense, and I was so
exhausted that I no longer felt that a natural birth would be peaceful. I
resigned myself to a medical birth without too much disappointment, as I knew
that things would go much more smoothly if I could get some rest. At this
point, I had been in labor for 18 hours and hadn’t had sleep in 26.
11:00 came and went with no sign of my OB. He had another
C-section and I would have to wait until 2:00 for him to come. I still had only
dilated to 3-4cm. I was crushed. Colin kept helping me count through the
contractions, but I was losing it. I felt hopeless.
Finally, Dr. Stamm was able to leave the OR and visit me. He
approved an epidural and the anesthetist arrived promptly. Getting the epidural
did not hurt at all, however, I experienced some “shocks” that I wasn’t
supposed to that made my left leg bounce around uncontrollably. I could still
feel my contractions although my legs were completely numb and heavy. Even
having my legs numb did help a lot since I have restless leg syndrome and
couldn’t get any rest between contractions because of that discomfort. They
kept giving me bolsters since the epidural wasn’t touching my contractions and
tried to convince me that it was going to work.
I slept between contractions for about an hour before I
consented to Pitocin under the impression that the epidural would balance them
out if I could just get enough medicine. Apparently, the epidural only ever
really took in my legs… specifically my left leg. Every bolster just went
there. It was my worst fear: Pitocin without an epidural.
At that point, I had resigned myself to a medical labor and
was no longer prepared mentally for the intensity of the contractions.
Especially considering I was having both natural contractions and artificial
Pitocin contractions back to back. A normal contraction feels like an ocean
wave, and before Pitocin, I knew that at some point, it would peak and begin to
decrease. Pitocin feels like a surprise shove into that ocean. I would have a
minute to minute and a half long artificial contraction followed by a minute
long natural one with about a minute break between. Colin was trying to count
me through them, but I could no longer focus. I began to shake uncontrollably
and had a small panic attack where I didn’t think that I could breathe although
my oxygen levels were normal. Colin told me to squeeze his finger as hard as I
could, and it actually made the shaking stop. I toyed with the idea of asking
them to take me off the Pitocin, but also wanted to whole thing to be over as
soon as possible. I stuck it out, more because I couldn’t speak during the
contractions and needed to breathe between them. I could tell that I was making
HUGE progress, but because it had been so slow moving the nurse was hesitant to
check me.
At about 8:00pm, I vomited during a contraction and knew
that it was almost time to meet my daughter. My nurse told me that I was fully
effaced and dilated. We started to do some “practice pushes” along with the
contractions and because I could feel everything, I knew exactly how to push. Once
I gave over to the idea that I had no choice, and had to finish delivery, I
felt myself surrender and relax into the pain. Those “practice” pushes brought
baby Margo almost to crowning, and the nurse had to run out of the room to call
Dr. Stamm. I actually had to actively NOT push through a couple contractions
(which was extremely difficult) so that he could get to me.
At 8:30, I began to push. Breaking each contraction down
into 3 ten second intervals where I would breathe in, hold my breath, and bear
down. Everyone kept saying how great I was doing, and after only a half hour at
9:00pm, they put my daughter on my chest.
I was stunned. I didn’t think that she was ever going to
make it. I had been terrified of delivery because I thought that I would feel
empty and hollow after pregnancy was over. Unknowingly, I had believed that if
she would just stay inside of me, I could protect her. With her in my arms, I
felt like I was in a dream. She was healthy 7lbs 14oz, 20.5 inches long, and
perfect.
9 days later, she is sleeping next to me as I write this.
Her face is more defined and I’m learning so much about her. She loves to have
her arms outstretched, even out of a swaddle. She has the most beautiful eyes
and lips. Although I don’t know much, I know how to feed her, and it brings me
such joy to have her close. Nights are hard with a maximum 2 hours of sleep at
a time, but I love them because it’s just her and I in our own little world.
I love her more every day, and although my labor and
delivery was 28 hours long and I had no sleep for 36, I am happy, easily
recovering, and amazed by the capacities of my body. Even though it was my
worst fear, I am fine. My baby is safe, and I could do it again. God has
designed women for this. We are capable. We are strong.